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Twenty years ago, schools had fire drills and tornado drills. Today, they\u2019ve added drills for handling bomb threats and active shooters. In addition to these types of tragedies, students also have to deal with suicides, overdoses, car accidents, and other tragic events that take the lives of their peers. As parents and educators, we have a responsibility to help kids and teens handle tragedy and provide them with the support and resources they need.<\/p>\n
We live in a world that is full of evil, but not everyone who lives in the world is evil. In fact, there\u2019s a lot of good going on every day. Talk about some of the positive things students are doing in the classroom and in the community. Look at resources such as the Good News Network<\/a> which highlight the positive things that are going on in the world. Draw their attention to the Random Acts of Kindness<\/a> movement and talk about how they can spread kindness<\/a> and do good work in their community every day.<\/p>\n When tragedy strikes, many kids and teens worry that it could happen to them. Take some time to reassure kids that despite the attention these events get in the news, they are rare and not likely to happen where you live. Explain some of the procedures you have in place to protect students should something bad happen and, if they are not convinced, encourage them to come up with some ideas of their own. Let them know that while you cannot promise bad things will never happen, you will do all that you can to ensure that students are safe and taken care of.<\/p>\n Often, kids and teens don’t know how to express negative emotions in a healthy way or are afraid to let them out. Instead, they bottle them up inside. Even if kids and teens are able to share how they\u2019re feeling, the weight of those feelings can weigh them down. Recognize that when tragedy strikes, some students may need help shedding some of the heaviness they feel. During these times, extend a bit of grace to students. Give them an extra day to complete homework or even offer a homework pass. Overlook minor outbursts. Provide plenty of opportunities and activities, such as coloring pages, silly games, meditation activities, and brain breaks, where students can decompress and unwind.<\/p>\n \u201cI try to talk, but no one listens to me!\u201d Many kids and teens have uttered this phrase. Make it your goal to ensure students never say this about you. When tragedies strike, make yourself available. Be willing to listen without judgement and answer any questions they may have. If you don\u2019t have the answers, offer to help them find the answers or direct them to someone who can help. If students do not want to talk, that\u2019s okay too, but regularly check in with them and let them know your door is always open. If you work in a school, set up a safe space where students can go to talk or collect their thoughts during the day and let them go without judgement. Will some students take advantage of the opportunity? Yes. However, the benefits to those who need it will far outweigh the few who take advantage of the situation.<\/p>\n As students talk and share their feelings, let them know that you are there for them and that you always have their best interest in mind. If students express needs or desires, take them seriously and try to offer whatever support you can. Don\u2019t be afraid to ask students, \u201cWhat do you need from me?\u201d They may not have an answer right away and you can encourage them to share those needs with you when they arise. If a student says, \u201cI just need you to lay off my case for a few days,\u201d then respect that. If a student says, \u201cI need you to be very positive,\u201d then be that that person. If a student says, \u201cI need you to understand that this a big deal,\u201d then let them know that you recognize the magnitude of what they\u2019re facing. Avoid phrases such as \u201cget over it,\u201d \u201cmove on,\u201d or \u201clet\u2019s try not to think about it right now.\u201d Those phrases downplay what kids and teens are feeling and can come off as very insensitive.<\/p>\n Adults show love to students in different ways. Parents might want to give their kids extra hugs, tell them that they\u2019re proud of them, and say \u201cI love you\u201d every day. Teachers may want to smile at students, write positive notes to give to them (or send home to parents), and incorporate their interests in class. There are many different ways to show kids you care about them<\/a>.<\/p>\n Tragedies often leave kids and teens feeling hopeless. Finding ways for them to help after the tragedy can help relieve some of that hopelessness. Students may write letters of encouragement and support to families who have lost loved ones. They may collect bottled water and toiletries to send to people affected by a hurricane. They may collect money to send to an organization that is providing aid. Organizations such as the American Red Cross<\/a> often create lists of items that they need. News organizations and people on social media are full of ways people can help too. Before donating money or supplies, do a little research to make sure the request is legitimate. If it is, give students a chance to help. Doing so may help them work through some of the negative emotions they\u2019re dealing with.<\/p>\n Do you have any advice for parents and teachers who are helping kids work through difficult situations? If so, please share it in the comments.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Twenty years ago, schools had fire drills and tornado drills. Today, they\u2019ve added drills for handling bomb threats and active shooters. In addition to these types of tragedies, students also have to deal with suicides, overdoses, car accidents, and other […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[191,190],"tags":[36,146,135],"yoast_head":"\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\t\nGive Them Safety<\/h3>\n
Give Them Relief<\/h3>\n
Give Them Attention<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nGive Them Support<\/h3>\n
Give Them Love<\/h3>\n
Give Them Purpose<\/h3>\n